What It's Like To Be You

What It's Like To Be You

Hosted by: Josh Lavine

How is your inner world structured, and how can you work with it, not against it? Learn in these intimate, high resolution interviews with people of each Enneagram type and practitioners of transformative inner...

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#31 The Work of Byron Katie with Todd Smith -- How to Question Stressful Thoughts Sincerely

"I've often heard people talk about The Work of Byron Katie as the "how"... there's the "what" of spiritual development... you know freedom, what it looks like... it's described so well in terms of Essence in the...
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#30: Gendlin's Focusing with Sandy Jahmi Burg -- How to Slow Down & Listen to Your Body

Sandy Jahmi Burg is a facilitator of Gendlin's Focusing -- the most powerful method of tapping into body intelligence that I've encountered. In this interview, we define it, demo it, and debrief. Enjoy. Sandy's...
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#29 Yamira, Type 5: High Stakes Art, Grief & Creativity, & Crossing the Bridge to an "Other"

Yamira [SO/SX 5w4 531] is an artist in New York. Watch this interview on YouTube so you can see Yamira's art as she talks about it. Yamira's links https://www.mossyscabs.com/ @mossyscabs @_brujaja The Enneagram School...
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#28: Kelly, Type 5 — Unnecessary Emotions, Rejection-Attachment Relationship Dynamics, Doing My Own Thing

Kelly Ayadi [SO/SX 5w6 512] is frequenter of online Enneagram forums and a somewhat more "relational" type 5 than might be typical, given her double-people instinctual stacking and 2 fix. In this conversation, we talk...
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#27 BONUS EP: Courtney Smith, Type 6 — Engagement in the Mental Center, Finding Truth in the Body, & Cultivating Inner Authority

I present to you the audio of the infamous Mascara Incident (which we don't talk about). This was recorded in December 2022, about 9 months before Courtney's official video interview. In this conversation, we explore...
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#26: Courtney Smith, Type 6 — Outsourcing Agency, the Call to Self-Responsibility, Playfulness

Courtney Smith [SO/SP 6w5 631] is a brilliant & original Enneagram thinker who has contributed hugely to our understanding of Object Relations. In this conversation, we explore her life as a 6 navigating her...
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#25: Siena, Type 8 — Immediacy in Movement Art, the Mystery of Fighting, & the Innocent Heart of the 8

Siena Hassett [SX/SO 8w7 827] is a Theatre Maker, Movement Artist, and someone who really embodies the virtue of the 8 -- Innocence: the joyful unselfconscious expression of one's life-force, and the willingness to be...
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#24: Alexandra, Enneagram 9 — Triple-Attachment Life, Choosing What's "Mine," & Discovering Friendship Intimacy

Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo [SO/SP 9w1 963] is a brilliant Enneagram thinker with a very evocative and inspiring triple attachment life story. There’s no one I trust more to explain Attachment from the inside....
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#23: Kristen Oberly, Enneagram 9 – Dreamwork, Depersonalization, and Coming (Back to) Life via the Unconscious [SO/SP 9w1 963]

Kristen Oberly [SO/SP 9w1 963] is an exceptionally gifted dream analyst, artist, and guide for the unconscious realm. We explore her misdiagnosis with paranoid schizophrenia, her bouts with depersonalization, and the...
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#22: Sarah Round 2 MetaConvo – Attachment Games, Rupture & Repair Cycles, and Realtime Conversation Dynamics [SO/SP 9w1 937]

Round 2 with Sarah [SO/SP 9w1 937]. A conversation ABOUT our last conversation, and a very personal look at both of our attachment games. I loved this. Josh's Links: www.theenneagramschool.com www.joshlavine.com...
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#21: Sarah, Type 9 – Positive Outlook Spin, Blurring Fantasy & Reality (and Gaslighting), and Finding Your No [SO/SP 9w1 937]

Sarah [SO/SP 9w1 937] is getting her PhD in psychology en route to becoming a therapist. In this conversation, Sarah is quite open and courageous in sharing what it's like for her on the inside of her "swirly 9-7...
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#20: Emily, Type 8 (Enneagram Skeptic) – Social Power Dynamics, Untouchable Independence, & Sensitivity [SO/SP 8w9 836]

Emily [SO/SP 8w9 836] is a beautiful example of a heart-forward 8 who has done significant inner work and values her sensitivity. We get into what it means to be in a social "power position," why that's important for...
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